Yes, I’m a womom.
Mom and woman had it out and womom was created!
As silly as it sounds, its a reality.
Melanie of Modernmami wrote an inspiring post and it triggered all those things I battled this year. It reached into my culture, the way I was brought up and who I want and at the same time don’t want to be.
You see, I was at a crossroads.
“What happened to the woman after becoming a mom? Does she slowly disappear? Does she ever come back? Do I have to choose?”
As a full-time working mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, and blogger – the roles seemed to be multiplying while the role of woman became dormant and almost non-existent. I am 28 years old for crying out loud! Yet I used to walk around in a bata (night gown) on weekends tending to housework, etc. Worrying about how spotless my bathroom could be is not my priority now.
I let myself believe that by taking care of everything and everyone else I would in turn, be fulfilled and happy. Wrong.
I had to take an initiative in my own life. I had to nail down goals and begin to pursue them. And I stomped my foot down and said, its time for me. Its time to refocus on what I have in front of me.
In order for me to be the best professional, wife, daughter, sister and friend, I first had to concentrate on myself . And with spiritual and healthful advice I know I made a decision to be that woman too and not feel guilty or shameful because of it.
Mi mami (my mother) doesn’t always agree with how I carve out certain days of the week that are dedicated to the woman but its okay. In certain ways we are different and although we see things differently I have embraced her loving, nurturing, and protecting ways as a mother. I appreciate her so much and am that kind of mom to my daughter because of her. But it in the end, I am the one who must take the responsibility for those very important aspects of my life that need attention and care because they make me who I am.
In order to live life to fullest degree you must remember yourself. As a mom, that’s always a struggle.
Remember your goals and dreams so you can be the best woman and mom possible.
Go ahead, let them have it out and let the womom in you come to life!